Charlie Sheen gets a hit TV show called “Anger Management” after he acts like an imbocile and tries to take down his former TV show “Two and a Half Men.” Lindsey Lohan continues to get movie deals after she’s been arrested too many times to count. Gun toting psychopaths gun down innocent children in elementary schools and 5 kids get 1 million likes on Facebook in 13 hours because they want to get a family dog and need Mom and Dad to pay attention.
What do these four isolated scenarios have in common? They’re all insane.
Never has there been a time in history where you can do less and get noticed more.
You started reading this article because you wanted to know if you’re a really crappy Mom. Perhaps you are. I’m not going to post a test or a checklist with the “10 Ways to Know If You’re a Really Crappy Mom.” You know if you are. Your gut tells you. Your heart tells you. You don’t have to ask anyone on Facebook or read any blogs to know.
Motherhood is sacred.
Motherhood is the one thing that can literally change the world.
You know if you’re doing your job. Or not.
If your kids are in day care, that’s crappy. They need you.
If you feed your kids fast food 5 nights a week because you’re too tired to cook, that’s crappy.
If you watch TV all night long instead of reading to your kids, that’s crappy.
If you spend more time in the car toting your kids than talking to them, that’s crappy.
If you put your kids to bed between the commercials, that’s crappy.
If you divorce their Dad, that’s crappy. (And yes, it will affect them forever. That ‘resiliant’ word is a cop-out. Just ask any adult whose parents divorced when they were young.)
If you work underneath your own potential, that’s crappy.
If you scream and yell all day, that’s crappy.
If you drink or take drugs to numb your own pain, that’s crappy.
So are you? A crappy Mom?
Or are you like the many million Moms out there who are getting about 50% of it right and 50% of it wrong?
The human ones. The ones where guilt and goodness and love and letting people down weigh in about equal on the scale of life?
Are you trying?
Are you doing your best?
Are you training up your child in the way he/she should go?
If you are, then you’re doing okay. We could all do better.
We could be more and do more and work less and love more.
But that’s the same with all of life.
The insaneness will always be with us.
The crazies will get the publicity while the Mom on a quest to do the right thing will go unnoticed.
Not entirely unnoticed.
The kids are watching.
They need you Mom.
All of you. (or as much as they can get)
If you want to change the world, simply go be a good Mom.