What’s Your Main Mission?

You know.  Your life purpose.  Sounds big and huge and ominous doesn’t it?

It is.  It’s the reason you were sent to the planet.  You know, the why of your life.

Some people make it look so easy.  Like Oprah.  Or Tim Tebow.   They know exactly what they’re to do and they go do it.   Every single day of their life is spent pursuing their mission.  And then there are others, like my friends’ Dad who runs the century-old family farm.  Day in, day out he has a mission.  And he’s totally committed to it.

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How Do You Know When You’re Good Enough?

Professionally, my life looks like a mosaic or a connect-the-dot puzzle, except for the fact that rarely did the dots ever connect.  I had 13 jobs before the age of 32.   I’ve spent the next 18 years working for myself.

Looking back, every single job I had when I worked for someone else was critical to what I do now, but at the time they seemed pud and meaningless.   Together, they turned me into a dynamo, an idea factory that could create something out of absolutely nothing and could do it in the next 13 minutes.

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The Most Critical Concept I Learned from Weight Watchers

Six months ago I joined Weight Watchers for the second time.  Always a competitor, I’d become a lifetime member (being within 2 pounds of my goal weight) almost 15 years earlier and let it go to pot over a decade and a half.  I was back up to 207.4 pounds, a good 57 pounds over my ideal weight.

(Well, maybe not my ideal weight, I consider that 118 pounds, the size I was as a senior in high school wearing my short cheerleading skirt and eating Cheetos and pizza to my hearts content.)

It was time to tackle the monster.  I didn’t want to.

Jennifer Hudson was singing Believe all over the television and flaunting her 80 pound weight loss and her svelte body.  Then, I ran across a personal fitness trainer named Drew who had gained 75 pounds so that he could know what it felt like to be fat.  His clients were always saying to him “you don’t know what it’s like.”  He didn’t.  He lost all 75 pounds in typical personal trainer fashion.  (See his story at www.fit2fat2fit.com)  Jared was still eating Subways and staying thin.

It was my time.

I knew Weight Watchers worked.  My daughter had lost 36 pounds.   I had two acquaintances who were both nearing the 90 pound weight loss number.  I could do this.

So I started.  I was lazy.  I didn’t count points.  I didn’t make Weight Watchers recipes except for Veggie Stew.  But I was losing weight, anywhere from .6 pounds to 2.7 pounds a week.

It’s 6 months later.  I’m down 24 pounds.  I’ve lost 4 inches off my boobs, 4.5 inches off my waist and 2.5 inches off my hips.  Each of my legs is an inch and a half smaller.

I walk 30 minutes a day on the treadmill, 6 days a week, typically averaging about 12 miles a week.

It’s working.

But what I like to do best is analyze.  It’s my personal occupation.  I analyze everything.  What’s working.  What’s not.  Why is it working.  What can I do better.  Why is my friend losing faster than I am.  (I know the answer to that one…because she’s more disciplined.)

So is weight loss about discipline?  No.  Is weight loss about willpower?  No.  Can you only eat certain foods and be successful?  No.

People are more successful at Weight Watchers than any other weight loss program because of one thing:  Accountability

It’s stepping on that dang scale once a week and having the lady show me what my ‘new’ weight is.  Up or down.  Even though it’s private, it’s public.  The lady knows.  And I know.  No one else knows (unless I tell them) but it doesn’t really matter.  One person is enough. 

AND, they print it out in writing and sticker it to your program book.  It’s documented accountability which is even better.

Accountability keeps me moving forward.  Accountability makes me think twice before I eat the candy bar.  Accountability is what keeps me from driving through McDonald’s any ole time I want to. 

There are other great perks of Weight Watchers…new recipes and amazing camaraderie.   Heavily researched weight loss tips and their Points Plus program.  Stickers for every 5 pounds you lose (kinda like kindergarten).  Having a place to show up that takes your money.  (I find it amazing that we pay to lose weight.)

But it all comes back to good old accountability. 

What other areas of our life could we apply this to?  Finances?  Career?  Friendship?  Marriage?  What could we accomplish if we were accountable to someone (or something) in the other areas.

I still have around 30 pounds to go.  It’s slow, but steady unlike how I like to do most things in my life (fast and furious).  And after much contemplation, I think I can attribute my weight loss success to the lady weighing me in every week on that darn scale.

(The quote at the top of the post can be found at www.lifelovequotesandsayings.com)

 

Why Is It Important To Show Love?

Love is a funny thing.  You know it when you have it.  You can feel it even though you can’t see it.  It’s invisible to the human eye, just like faith.  So if you can feel it, why do you need to show it?

Love requires that we show up.  To show up, we need to show love.  I did this today in three tiny little ways…I took care of my grandson Max for two hours while his mama went to the Dr. to confirm her pregnancy (yeah!) and find out her due date.  I did 4 loads of laundry for my 21–year old college son while he was getting an MRI done on his hurt shoulder.   I called my dear friend Janece whose going through one of life’s most violent trials, simply to let her know I’m thinking about her.

All because I love them.

Showing love is the reason a man gets down on his knee and presents his soon-to-be bride with an engagement ring.  It’s the reason we hug each other and kiss and make love.  All those things show love.

You can’t really love somebody and show them nothing.  Love doesn’t work like that.  It’s why over 50% of marriages fail and why relationships fizzle.  We simply don’t show enough love.

Love doesn’t have to cost one red cent.   I think the best love is typically done through service.  Asking ‘how can I help you?’ without any thought of repayment.    It’s putting a good supper on the table or taking out the trash without whining.  It’s helping your husband unpack his motorcycle gear even when that’s the last thing you’d like to be doing.  It’s rocking a sick baby when exhaustion has overtaken you hours before.

Love is tangible.  You have to show it.  And it’s the best feeling in the whole wide world.